Dating cheating spouses
Keep in mind that relationships are not based on logic, but are influenced by our emotions.
As a result, cheating is difficult to define because people differ in the type of contact they feel it is appropriate for a partner to have with someone else.
I wrote a novel called in which the characters walk through these issues as they show up in love relationships.
The reader is the fly on the wall as the characters explore their sexual shame, and learn to relate with the partners they live with and love.
The first question that comes to mind when a spouse cheats is: Why?
A recent study by the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, attempted to answer that question and found that the reasons behind infidelity differ greatly between the sexes.
In a very broad sense, cheating involves betraying a partner’s expectations about the type of contact the cheater has with others.
Finding out that he cheated and fathered a daughter begs the age old questions: How can someone seemingly so good do something so bad? Statistics vary, but it’s assumed that 50 percent of men cheat. In my study, only seven percent of cheating men said they were after the sex as compared to 48 percent who reported it was the desire for emotional connection that drove the impropriety.The "good wife" and the “shameless hussy” are never merged roles in these men's minds.Therefore, when these men crave “shameful” sex, they use porn, prostitution, or affairs to experience it.What You Can Learn: While the confidence gained from the affair may have given her the spark she needed to get out of a bad relationship, New York City psychologist Michael E.Silverman, Ph D, says if you're in an abusive relationship, deception isn't the best way to deal with it.