How to get the best out of online dating
jamie flexman Jamie is a Bournemouth based guitar teacher, freelance writer and founder of Psycholocrazy - where he aims to help others give up the boring 9-5 existence in favour of a life worth living.Full Bio You will have no doubt seen those tabloid internet dating horror stories, but they are so rare it’s not even worth worrying about.He told me it wasn’t that he minded she was overweight; he was upset by the fact that she lied to him.Some people feel posting inaccurate photos of themselves is the only way to get dates because people judge so heavily by appearance. But are those dates resulting in the relationship you were looking for? Don’t skimp on your profile: I’m just going to say it — filling out your online dating profile is a pain in the ass, especially if you have to take a long quiz beforehand to determine your personality type.‘People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a “bookworm and internet addict” makes them feel they’d never see you,’ explains match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor.
Lying doesn’t get you anywhere in the dating world. Talk in specifics to give a full flavour of who you are.
If employers can use the internet to check out potential employees then you can do the same.
On a semi related note, make sure that the photos you have seen are genuine.
To oversimplify what I mean, let’s take coffee for example. Only use current photos in your profile: One of the most common complaints I hear from men is that women frequently misrepresent themselves in their photos by using old photos (sometimes decades old) or by cropping them in too tightly so you don’t realize they are of a certain body type.
Most people can agree they don’t like scalding hot coffee, but it’s tough to get people to agree on how they do like their coffee. Obviously men do this as well; I’ve just heard this complaint more frequently from men than from women.